Took me a little while to get used to this in Vancouver, but at a certain point I just came to terms with the fact that people have become accustomed to being w

Took me a little while to get used to this in Vancouver, but at a certain point I just came to terms with the fact that people have become accustomed to being weak, lazy, and avoidant. So when I make plans with someone I don't know that well, if it's important to have less ambiguity about the plan, I make sure it's specific. I find that if people agree to something specific, they're less likely to bail. The ones that have, I'm no longer friends with, and they eventually just earn a rep as flakey social climbers, because it's common for them to just agree to things that they know they can't make. If I'm the one who bails, I try to just be honest about it, but it's usually something that has changed to become an impractical event. "I'm not all that enthusiastic to join a house party starting at 11:30, because everyone will want to sleep in 25 min and I won't make any meaningful connections". Which usually happens because the person was flakey about inviting me in the first place, and the good part is over.