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Why then must failure or adversity be learned at the childhood or "small child" age? If the end result is to obtain coping skills, what exactly are these skill

Why then must failure or adversity be learned at the childhood or "small child" age? If the end result is to obtain coping skills, what exactly are these skills? Are they only obtainable during childhood? Are there examples of adults who lack coping skills yet had "unshielded" lives?

WalterBright 5y ago
Toddlerhood teaches us all kinds of things, like closing a door with your fingers wrapped around the door hurts. We learn an awful lot about how to not hurt ourselves by hurting ourselves. Our muscles get stronger by stressing them to failure. Is there any inherent reason the mind does not respond the same way? Me, I walked to kindergarten both ways, about a 3/4 mile walk, by myself. These days, it would be considered child neglect. I was one of those "free range" kids, as were all the others. I received one of the last chemistry sets that contained a bunsen burner, copper sulphate, and experiments with hydrochloric acid. I grew up just before the "everyone is a winner" movement. In high school, my preoccupation was shredding tires on my Mustang. At about that time, the cops finally shut down the high school drags in downtown Phoenix, just before I was able to participate. What a drag :-/ I got an Eagle scout with zero involvement of my parents. I had my own business for spending money. I got into fist fights with other boys. I build a flame thrower out of a lawnmower. My mom despaired as the driveway was black with tire marks. It was a good time to be a boy. And in no way was I different from the other boys. We'd shred their tires, too. During my entire K-12 time, the only two deaths in the entire schools were two boys who got smacked by running into traffic. No suicides. I feel kinda sorry for later generations with their helicopter parents.
- adamredwoods 5y ago
  >> Toddlerhood teaches us all kinds of things, like closing a door with your fingers wrapped around the door hurts. We learn an awful lot about how to not hurt ourselves by hurting ourselves. This is immediate feedback loop. >> Me, I walked to kindergarten both ways... You've lead a great life and had great opportunities, I'm so happy for you, but this type of self-righteousness is completely insensitive in this serious and complex issue. >> I feel kinda sorry for later generations with their helicopter parents. This is an insensitive thing to say.
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dankboys 5y ago
Being slightly uncomfortable (getting muddy, having a long walk home from the park, waiting ages for something) Not being immediately consoled when something doesn't go your way but you're not injured, such as a toddler falling on the floor when getting the hang of walking

WalterBright 5y ago

Toddlerhood teaches us all kinds of things, like closing a door with your fingers wrapped around the door hurts. We learn an awful lot about how to not hurt ourselves by hurting ourselves. Our muscles get stronger by stressing them to failure. Is there any inherent reason the mind does not respond the same way? Me, I walked to kindergarten both ways, about a 3/4 mile walk, by myself. These days, it would be considered child neglect. I was one of those "free range" kids, as were all the others. I received one of the last chemistry sets that contained a bunsen burner, copper sulphate, and experiments with hydrochloric acid. I grew up just before the "everyone is a winner" movement. In high school, my preoccupation was shredding tires on my Mustang. At about that time, the cops finally shut down the high school drags in downtown Phoenix, just before I was able to participate. What a drag :-/ I got an Eagle scout with zero involvement of my parents. I had my own business for spending money. I got into fist fights with other boys. I build a flame thrower out of a lawnmower. My mom despaired as the driveway was black with tire marks. It was a good time to be a boy. And in no way was I different from the other boys. We'd shred their tires, too. During my entire K-12 time, the only two deaths in the entire schools were two boys who got smacked by running into traffic. No suicides. I feel kinda sorry for later generations with their helicopter parents.

adamredwoods 5y ago
>> Toddlerhood teaches us all kinds of things, like closing a door with your fingers wrapped around the door hurts. We learn an awful lot about how to not hurt ourselves by hurting ourselves. This is immediate feedback loop. >> Me, I walked to kindergarten both ways... You've lead a great life and had great opportunities, I'm so happy for you, but this type of self-righteousness is completely insensitive in this serious and complex issue. >> I feel kinda sorry for later generations with their helicopter parents. This is an insensitive thing to say.
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dankboys 5y ago

Being slightly uncomfortable (getting muddy, having a long walk home from the park, waiting ages for something) Not being immediately consoled when something doesn't go your way but you're not injured, such as a toddler falling on the floor when getting the hang of walking