Reminds me of The testaments (the sequel to handmaid's tale). There was a bit on that fact that no-one actually wanted for Gilead to happen, but the movement st

Reminds me of The testaments (the sequel to handmaid's tale). There was a bit on that fact that no-one actually wanted for Gilead to happen, but the movement started too fast and everyone was too scared to diverge. It took a life of its own. I think this is a legitimate social behavior where for various reasons you don't want to divest from a commitment (don't want to be an outlier, FOMO, don't want to hurt people, ...). Ideally you would fix that through communication, but we're also human after all, and have to deal with reality of social constructs and culture. You don't always have the emotional capital with people to just bail. Sometimes you're in a situation where you know that, were you to bring up that you'd prefer not to do something, the other person would immediately cancel to accommodate, even though the cost (emotional, not $$) for you to do it is lower than the cost for them no to do. And then sometimes you enter a loop about something scary that you only do because your friends are in. A year ago I did my first major multi-day ski touring traverse. A physically and psychologically taxing thing, where once you're committed in it, you don't have a choice but complete (you can't ski down, you have to finish the loop, no matter how hard it is). I was scared AF, trying to find a good excuse to skip. It didn't and we did it, and it was the best thing I've done in all 2021. Talking about it afterwards, turns out we were all in that mental space, scared and only motivated by the fact that we'd do it together. If 1 person had emitted doubts, we would have all bailed. In the end, luckily no-one did. So I don't think the idea behind it is necessarily bad, and I don't think you're a baby for not telling someone you're not ecstatic about something.