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Yes, I would like to make those decisions. No, I don't think I'm owed the right to make them. To say otherwise would be silly; if we all honored such a right we
by fluoridation 5y ago
Yes, I would like to make those decisions. No, I don't think I'm owed the right to make them. To say otherwise would be silly; if we all honored such a right we'd be forever trapped navigating an interminable labyrinth of negotiation and consensus-reaching.
- em-bee 5y agoreaching consensus and building unity is a good way to strengthen a community, organization or team, so no i don't think we'd be trapped. on the contrary, everyone would feel empowered. most of our problems today are coming from the fact that people are disempowered and lack the agency to improve the situation.
- fluoridation 5y agoI misspoke. I should have said "consensus-seeking". The state of having reached consensus is good, yes. Perpetually seeking consensus is not.
- em-bee 5y agoyou need to seek consensus, in order to reach it, so i disagree. of course, if you can't find consensus after sufficient negotiation then that is a problem, but it depends on the nature of the relationship and the nature of the point in question, how much of a problem it is. failure to reach consensus could threaten your relationship. if my boss keeps making decisions for me then i'll eventually quit my job, because i am not willing to work like that. and if my partner does it then it will lead to a breakup and if it is something else, a judge might force a consensus on us.