I always found the "Boundaries" (Henry Cloud) distinction here very useful. It's OK to "hurt" someone - that is, if you are communicating the truth, your bound

I always found the "Boundaries" (Henry Cloud) distinction here very useful. It's OK to "hurt" someone - that is, if you are communicating the truth, your boundaries, your needs, you may hurt someone. It's not OK to "harm" someone - that is, you do intentional/lasting damage to them through your actions. (My wording is not nearly as on point as the original author, but I hope you get the gist.) Here's a snippet: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/654449-there-is-a-big-difference-between-hurt-and-harm-we https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/654449-there-is-a-big-diffe...