Agree, it's a hard thing. Question I'd pose: is the detachment borne out of avoidance, or conserving emotional energy so you can deploy it where it is useful? T

Agree, it's a hard thing. Question I'd pose: is the detachment borne out of avoidance, or conserving emotional energy so you can deploy it where it is useful? There's a difference. I latched onto something like this for my digital self, and it mostly broke traditional social media for me. After all, what does it matter if people you probably won't meet approve of what you post? All that time and energy for what...a slightly higher number in a database somewhere? For all the "humans are social animals"-type platitudes that try to explain the necessity of social media, it always ended up being a huge net energy loss. But, my life is better when I am emotionally engaged in multiple spheres simultaneously: marriage, family, work, friends, hobbies. It's impossible for things to be going well in every sphere at once, so you spread out your emotional involvement among it all such that the inevitable dips are easier to deal with.