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Definitely not all women are chronic apologizers, but I can't think of ever meeting a chronicly apologetic man. I don't think parental norms and society, taken
by yeetsfromhellL2 5y ago
Definitely not all women are chronic apologizers, but I can't think of ever meeting a chronicly apologetic man. I don't think parental norms and society, taken together, encourage it or even really allow it, at least in the West.
I suspect there's big overlap between women who are chronic apologizers and women with overbearing mothers (NPD, BPD types).
- jaminal 5y agoHave met and worked with many male chronic apologizers. I am a recovering one myself! Interesting idea re: NPD/BPD in parents as a possible correlate. Connecting the dots in existing clinical research may agree.
- kelseyfrog 5y agoWhile it's less socially acceptable to be a male chronic apologizer, I can easily think of one in my life. Still, there are many more male apology abstainers that I've known over the years. Hell, I was raised by one.
- mecha_ghidorah 5y agoI'm a man and I'm a chronic apologiser, and I think it probably at least partially originates from being physically abused as a child. It's easy to get in a habit of just apologising immediately for any sort of negative reaction so that you (hopefully) don't get severely beaten I'm working on it and have improved a lot, but I used to do things like apologise to people whenever they expressed any sort of displeasure or discomfort, even if I had absolutely nothing to do with it and they couldn't possibly think I did... I used to regularly apologise to people when they complained about the weather for example.