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>In my anecdata, its women around me that are apologizing for very benign things, often and habitually, apologizing for basically breathing and other things tha
by nobody9999 5y ago
>In my anecdata, its women around me that are apologizing for very benign things, often and habitually, apologizing for basically breathing and other things that I’m sometimes saying “…. You don’t have to apologize for that”
A dear friend of mine does that. We kept telling her to stop apologizing, but she just keeps doing it.
So my peer group made it a drinking game. Every time <my friend> apologizes, everyone has to drink.
It hasn't made her stop apologizing, but it's less disconcerting when you're half in the bag. :)
- jancsika 5y ago> So my peer group made it a drinking game. Every time <my friend> apologizes, everyone has to drink. Chances are that someone who apologizes for "basically breathing" doesn't have the ability to even express mild displeasure at the game, much less feel comfortable requesting that it stop. So it's a coin flip whether your friend a) feels like part of the group during this activity in a positive way, or b) takes the whole ordeal as yet another reason from the universe to apologize.
- nobody9999 5y ago