Yes, it is very manipulative. It is the ethics issue I mentioned above. It can change your attitude to your partner in bad ways. It will lead to a disaster if y

Yes, it is very manipulative. It is the ethics issue I mentioned above. It can change your attitude to your partner in bad ways. It will lead to a disaster if your partner find out about the manipulation. > The whole point of growing as a personality is wanting to grow and learn. No it is not the whole point. I don't want to make all the chores myself also. I don't want to fight over chores, to make my partner to do some of them. Though I agree, it would be nice to find such a way, that doesn't have the ethics issues, and moreover not just train a partner to do chores, but makes him a better personality.