Personally I never liked the idea that one should "get over" the death of people who really take central roles in one's life. It in my mind cheapens what relati

Personally I never liked the idea that one should "get over" the death of people who really take central roles in one's life. It in my mind cheapens what relationships are and that for many people a lot of relationships are final and so is losing them, there is simply no replacement for everything and there shouldn't be, it would be weirdly robotic. So personally as I get older and people die I think grieving and having that 'weight' with you is normal, I couldn't imagine that losing a brother, or a wife, or decades long friends is something to get over with. I think it's important that people who have problems functioning get help but I'm not sure there's a lot of need to pathologize that kind of grief wholesale which seems so common nowadays.