I'm sympathetic that there is grief in losing someone but I always find it strange when it lingers long. The person grieving is not honoring the person (or anim

I'm sympathetic that there is grief in losing someone but I always find it strange when it lingers long. The person grieving is not honoring the person (or animal) they are grieving for. If the person they are grieving for saw them grieving they'd be upset and say something like "Move on! We had good times. Now go forward and have more good times! Every time you continue to grieve you're actually hurting me and the memory of me so stop it! You're also hurting yourself and you know I wouldn't want that. Go and have a new life!" I'm sure easier said than done. Maybe long term grief is a disease or something. Still, there's logic (to me at least) that your long term grief is dishonoring the very person your grieving for. They'd hate to see you in this state and would love for you to be happy. I lost my father 3 months ago. Yes, I miss him. I have lots of good memories. But he'd not be happy to see me grieve long term.