> Maybe they only mention them with great reluctance is because you're not a safe person to mention them around. Based on OP's other comments, I wouldn't find

> Maybe they only mention them with great reluctance is because you're not a safe person to mention them around. Based on OP's other comments, I wouldn't find this hard to believe considering their complete dismissal and misunderstanding (or perhaps intentional misinterpretation) of people's comments that antagonize open questions and considerations.