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"Believing it will happen or not is not determining the outcome." Words are powerful. So sure most people will get over grief, despite them saying they never w

"Believing it will happen or not is not determining the outcome." Words are powerful. So sure most people will get over grief, despite them saying they never will. But in my experience, those words make it harder for them.

watwut 5y ago
I don't think so. Those words express how they feel right now at that moment. They put into words hopelessness they feel at that moment. Expressing it is part of process. Forcing them to lie about their real feeling at that moment won't help them overcome anything. It will only make them and anyone who is watching not to trust you with their feelings.
- hutzlibu 5y ago
  "Forcing them to lie about their real feeling at that moment won't help them overcome anything." First, I am not forcing anyone. Secondly, there are thoughts and there are feelings. You can feel deep sorrow, but thinking that this sorrow will last forever is a different thing. And applying the scientific method suggests, nothing lasts forever. That insight makes the sorrow nothing less intense. But it helped me, processing it, instead of letting the grief screw up my life, too. I know a bit about psychology and spiritualism. Mantras and autosuggestion. They can make your life better, or worse. So I simply share my experience of my success with it and my observation of how it worked out for others. And if anyone feels forced to do anything, simply by me sharing my experience, than I don't see anything I can do about that, except feel sorry for them.
  - watwut 5y ago
    > And applying the scientific method suggests, nothing lasts forever. That is not scientific claim. That is not understanding the human communication and context.
    - hutzlibu 5y ago
      This really does not feel, like a honest exchange of ideas. You are free to use any autosuggestion, you think is helpful. I simply shared mine. Good luck with yours.

watwut 5y ago

I don't think so. Those words express how they feel right now at that moment. They put into words hopelessness they feel at that moment. Expressing it is part of process. Forcing them to lie about their real feeling at that moment won't help them overcome anything. It will only make them and anyone who is watching not to trust you with their feelings.

hutzlibu 5y ago
"Forcing them to lie about their real feeling at that moment won't help them overcome anything." First, I am not forcing anyone. Secondly, there are thoughts and there are feelings. You can feel deep sorrow, but thinking that this sorrow will last forever is a different thing. And applying the scientific method suggests, nothing lasts forever. That insight makes the sorrow nothing less intense. But it helped me, processing it, instead of letting the grief screw up my life, too. I know a bit about psychology and spiritualism. Mantras and autosuggestion. They can make your life better, or worse. So I simply share my experience of my success with it and my observation of how it worked out for others. And if anyone feels forced to do anything, simply by me sharing my experience, than I don't see anything I can do about that, except feel sorry for them.
- watwut 5y ago
  > And applying the scientific method suggests, nothing lasts forever. That is not scientific claim. That is not understanding the human communication and context.
  - hutzlibu 5y ago
    This really does not feel, like a honest exchange of ideas. You are free to use any autosuggestion, you think is helpful. I simply shared mine. Good luck with yours.