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Overworking makes me think of falling into a hero/rescuer mode of the karpman drama triangle[1]. Basically the idea is you can really disempower others if you
by softwaredoug 5y ago
Overworking makes me think of falling into a hero/rescuer mode of the karpman drama triangle[1].
Basically the idea is you can really disempower others if you constantly do the work yourself to rescue them from their own mistakes. And the other person can take the role of victim in the relationship, in need of rescuing instead of being responsible the consequences themselves. Or persecutor - blaming and casting out against others.
1 - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle
- kwyjibo1230 5y agoInteresting wiki article, very insightful! As a manager myself, I think it's very important to be aware of whether you are playing the "rescuer" and perpetuating dysfunction, or acting as a "coach" and helping others to actually change and learn.
- dilyevsky 5y agoDon’t fool yourself - most managers would fall into Persecutor camp not the Rescuer ime.
- afarrell 5y agoIt is incredibly easy and ego-inflationary for people playing the persecutor role to see themselves as rescuers.
- kwyjibo1230 5y agoDefinitely tracks with the human tendency to judge yourself by intentions, and others by actions
- kwyjibo1230 5y agoThe wiki covers that scenario. The rescuer uses their role to say they "tried" and then justify negative feelings to the victim. Essentially becoming the persecutor