This is really good advice. It also forces you to figure out what you want exactly. For example, someone might get frustrated by poor performance (real or imagi

This is really good advice. It also forces you to figure out what you want exactly. For example, someone might get frustrated by poor performance (real or imagined) of a peer, but what they're really looking for is a promotion and they see the peer as an obstacle to that. Figuring out the positive outcome you want (promotion, successful project, etc) and then working with management on that is a good tactic.