It's absolutely enmeshment. I think enmeshment can emerge when children with higher than average levels of empathy aren't given the tools and support they need

It's absolutely enmeshment. I think enmeshment can emerge when children with higher than average levels of empathy aren't given the tools and support they need to deal with that. (Also now a psychologist, so I could be off base. But they do at least seem to be related things.)