> you to retain dignity, self-sacrifice, and thinking about _them_ more than ever > That's precisely the time when you need to dig deep and let _reason_ take t

> you to retain dignity, self-sacrifice, and thinking about _them_ more than ever > That's precisely the time when you need to dig deep and let _reason_ take the lead I would say when self-sacrifice, thinking of others first is what's called for, that's actually empathy leading, at its most high-functioning. Empathy is taking the lead, but it's somehow a deeper kind, qualitatively distinct from day to day sympathy and personality. Sometimes a person you thought was rather heartless day to day, turns out to care for their buddies in such a moment, and you don't forget their actions. Of course it is empathy in concert with reason. Reason, intuition, skill, knowledge - and that measured mind - are all required in difficult situations, but without empathy would often lead to self-preservation mode. > deep down they are actually masters of the empathy they've carefully hidden. I like this. Yeah, that's what I mean.