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Yeah, I was stressed out when I accidentally make other people mad. Now I just apologize and move on, if they're having meltdown I just assume they're assholes

• mikepurvis 5y ago
  It's really a balance— you can do your best to do right by other people, to do what they're asking of you and behave in prosocial ways, but any therapist will tell you that ultimately other people's feelings are their responsibility to manage and work through, and not yours. Traditional CBT says this is even the case in romantic relationships, though EFT is a bit more nuanced on this— you're not directly responsible for your partner's feelings and emotions (you don't owe them an apology when you cheat on them in their dream), but understanding their emotions is an opportunity to be a better and more supportive partner, which can be massively enriching to the relationship if both parties are fully committed to doing the work and have the language to communicate effectively about it.