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Points taken. Will try to work on a second version that will keep in mind how this came across to you (and others in this thread).

uniqueuid 5y ago
Thanks! By the way, it might help people if the frame of reference was clear. Did you write this for your managing role at NZZ? Or as a freelancer? Or ...?
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etrautmann 5y ago
I had this reaction to the title, but reading the piece after I found it to be general points for all interactions among people rather than particular instructions for interacting with you (which I agree would be off-putting).
dessant 5y ago
I've skimmed your post, and I honestly feel like the content is not the main issue here, but the fact that it was written and published. You could share how you prefer to interact with people if the need arises, preferably by addressing them directly about the points that are relevant for your interactions, and without giving them the impression that you've handed in a list of preferences.
- davidbauer 5y ago
  That's a good point, yes. I didn't intend to publish it first, but put it out there to learn from the feedback I'm getting. It's interesting how differently people who don't know me (see this entire discussion here) react compared to people who know me or have worked with me before. That's super helpful since future co-workers will most likely fall in the first group.
  - closewith 5y ago
    It's also possible the reactions you get from the second group are muted because they naturally don't want to offend you.
  - mike_d 5y ago
    Whatever you do, please leave it up. Documents like this are extremely valuable red flags for future coworkers.
- JabavuAdams 5y ago
  Yes! The fact that someone would write a doc like this for their own introspection and growth - great! The fact that you would publish it or supply it as a prelude to interaction - weeeird. But again, I've made similar gaffes. Will probably make more.

uniqueuid 5y ago

Thanks! By the way, it might help people if the frame of reference was clear. Did you write this for your managing role at NZZ? Or as a freelancer? Or ...?

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etrautmann 5y ago

I had this reaction to the title, but reading the piece after I found it to be general points for all interactions among people rather than particular instructions for interacting with you (which I agree would be off-putting).

dessant 5y ago

I've skimmed your post, and I honestly feel like the content is not the main issue here, but the fact that it was written and published. You could share how you prefer to interact with people if the need arises, preferably by addressing them directly about the points that are relevant for your interactions, and without giving them the impression that you've handed in a list of preferences.

davidbauer 5y ago
That's a good point, yes. I didn't intend to publish it first, but put it out there to learn from the feedback I'm getting. It's interesting how differently people who don't know me (see this entire discussion here) react compared to people who know me or have worked with me before. That's super helpful since future co-workers will most likely fall in the first group.
- closewith 5y ago
  It's also possible the reactions you get from the second group are muted because they naturally don't want to offend you.
- mike_d 5y ago
  Whatever you do, please leave it up. Documents like this are extremely valuable red flags for future coworkers.
JabavuAdams 5y ago
Yes! The fact that someone would write a doc like this for their own introspection and growth - great! The fact that you would publish it or supply it as a prelude to interaction - weeeird. But again, I've made similar gaffes. Will probably make more.