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I've likewise gotten better with decades of practice, but my biggest problem seems to be that my brain simply doesn't have enough overall "social bandwidth" to

I've likewise gotten better with decades of practice, but my biggest problem seems to be that my brain simply doesn't have enough overall "social bandwidth" to function normally in-person interactions. If I'm paying attention to your body language or tone of voice or gaze, I'm not paying attention to your words, and vice versa. None of it ever became "automatic" like it seems to be for most people.

MarkusWandel 5y ago
In my case something that happens sometimes: Meet someone new, usually the very high social skill kind that can charm anyone into instantly feeling they're their best friend, and have a long, stimulating conversation. A few days later I've forgotten all about it. A year later, someone I've never met before (right?) hails me and knows all about me. Super awkward. Because they remember it all, effortlessly. Whereas I, social dues paid, forgot all about it again.