My mother used to listen to those MLM casettes about selling. One piece of advice that stuck was "Nobody is born smiling. The first thing a human does is cry. Y

My mother used to listen to those MLM casettes about selling. One piece of advice that stuck was "Nobody is born smiling. The first thing a human does is cry. You have to learn to smile." My default smile is sultry. That's awkward in a lot of situations. So when I smile, I'd cover my mouth, and I'd avoid smiling in photos. I had to practice. It was like throwing a basketball; everyone knew how to throw a ball but not throw it the right way. There's a few smiles - the photo smile, that cute smile with your eyes, the instant smile upon seeing a pretty stranger, the "I enjoy your company" smile to use in dates and interviews. After a while, it overrode my natural smile. It didn't even take very long, probably a month or two of practice in the shower. I learned to apply that to every single social skill. Listening is probably the best skill to be charming. Make a habit of listening first, then deciding what to say. Public speaking is a skill too. The way my trainer taught it, you have to load your head with bullet points and then speak it out without sorting the words beforehand. If you can combine those two skills together - make bullet points in your head while someone is talking, then speaking from those bullet points, you can sound very sharp and charismatic (people love it when you're paying attention). I still haven't fixed my posture at 30+ but so far it's a dump stat.