This is getting meta, but I agree: I usually can't see what I'm writing before I have hit submit. It's as if the simulating-what-the-other-person-sees doesn't k

This is getting meta, but I agree: I usually can't see what I'm writing before I have hit submit. It's as if the simulating-what-the-other-person-sees doesn't kick in until they actually have an opportunity to read it. It'd be trolling if the intent was to gaslight. Otherwise, toning down aggression is a virtue.