Moving the goalposts, but the decline button in your example looks significantly harder to engage than the join button, and engaging with it would cause at leas

Moving the goalposts, but the decline button in your example looks significantly harder to engage than the join button, and engaging with it would cause at least a twinge of anxiety in anticipation of having to essentially coerce the interface to accept that I do not wish to travel the gilded path. It frustrates me that this sort of design has become not just acceptable but celebrated as 'correct', and I long for the days when interfaces did their best to seek my enthusiastic consent to my chosen course of action.