I made a comment here about a book the other day and the author responded. I found that I was more fair, thoughtful and neutral when I replied to him than when

I made a comment here about a book the other day and the author responded. I found that I was more fair, thoughtful and neutral when I replied to him than when I made the original comment. This isn't always the case but I think that personal interaction with the creator tends to make criticism more measured and humane.