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Yes but to what end? I don’t think shame is nearly as effective a “tool” as you imagine. What are some examples of things that humans have commonly shamed one a
by elliekelly 5y ago
Yes but to what end? I don’t think shame is nearly as effective a “tool” as you imagine. What are some examples of things that humans have commonly shamed one another for throughout history? Most of them, with the benefit of hindsight, were nonsense and the shame solved nothing. How many gay people were “cured” by the shame they endured? How many people with depression? Or obesity? Or AIDS? Or epilepsy? Or leprosy? Or PTSD? Or diabetes? Or dyslexia?
And that’s to say nothing of the other ridiculous ways shame is wielded: when a man wants to be a stay-at-home dad, when a person doesn’t want to become a parent, when someone emigrates to another country, when someone is in a relationship with a person of another race. All of these people have been “shamed” yet none of these behaviors have abated.
What would you think of a manager who uses shame to “motivate” their employees? Or a teacher who uses shame to "motivate" students? You’d probably think they’re awful at their job. We know that putting people down is a terrible an ineffective way to motivate them to move forward.
So why do we still think it magically works when it comes to addiction? It doesn’t.