Not quite an answer, but I found Gail Sheehy's (bestselling) book Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life super-enlightening. Highly recommended. It's like a

Not quite an answer, but I found Gail Sheehy's (bestselling) book Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life super-enlightening. Highly recommended. It's like a road map of broadly what to expect as you go through life, and get older, decade by decade. Things you might think are problems unique to you, you will learn are normal and part of life. Hard to explain, but I found it mind-blowingly good. Hmm I must read it again, it's been a while. Good luck! https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/82229.Passages https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/82229.Passages Gail Sheehy's brilliant road map of adult life shows the inevitable personality and sexual changes we go through in our 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond. p.s. Watch this inspiring Open Mind interview with her first (it's on another another of her books, also about peoples' lives), then you'll be able to hear her writing in her voice while you read it! 27mins https://www.thirteen.org/openmind-archive/aging/pathfinders/ https://www.thirteen.org/openmind-archive/aging/pathfinders/