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Like it or not, the story has already been told once the person has died. All that's left is how you feel about that story. History will be judging us all for a
by madrox 5y ago
Like it or not, the story has already been told once the person has died. All that's left is how you feel about that story. History will be judging us all for a long time and there's no rush. Dunk all you like on someone when they die if it makes you feel better, but it's hardly a classy move and doesn't exactly change hearts and minds.
- Forgeties79 5y agoI didn’t say “dunk” on them. I’m saying you can tell a story that isn’t “oh my god they were angels in life and they’re angels now in death.” There’s a whole range of tones between sanitizing and slandering.
- madrox 5y agoIf we're arguing semantics there probably isn't much point in continuing. You can certainly tell that story, but I'm not sure a person's wake is the place to do it...if for no better reason than out of kindness for the grieving. There's plenty of time for history to develop a nuanced opinion.
- Forgeties79 5y agoIt’s not just semantics when you change my argument from “we can talk about the negative/more complex sides of a person in an obituary” to “I should be able to ‘dunk’ on someone in an obituary if I feel the need to.” You are misstating my intention in an effort to make my position seem less reasonable than it is. Your description was off by a large margin, it wasn’t just semantics. I do agree this discussion probably isn’t going to be fruitful though, so have a nice weekend.