There is nothing that can be said or done to fix this pain. Today I did a funeral for a friend of 20+ years who died far too young. After the funeral I sat wit

There is nothing that can be said or done to fix this pain. Today I did a funeral for a friend of 20+ years who died far too young. After the funeral I sat with another family as they made the decision to turn off life support for the matriarch of the family. I can not sleep. The grief of death can make living insurmountable. Even in this suffering your life can have meaning. “In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.” ― Viktor E. Frankl It is ok to hurt. My best advice is to find community that will love you and your wife and hold space as you find meaning. A faith community and/or a grief support group is a great place to look. You are not alone. I hope you find comfort from the many caring responses in this thread. Victor Frankl’s book “Man’s Search For Meaning” has helped me. Look me up if you want to talk. Same twitter username.