You are in a trap. Years can slip by without you noticing it. 5 years. 10 years. ? It happened to me. About the only way out that I know is to quit your job

You are in a trap. Years can slip by without you noticing it. 5 years. 10 years. ? It happened to me. About the only way out that I know is to quit your job and move somewhere else. The life you describe is unsustainable.