The internet is probably the wrong place to ask such a question, context matters a lot. I cannot imagine the pain you have to go through, having kids myself.

The internet is probably the wrong place to ask such a question, context matters a lot. I cannot imagine the pain you have to go through, having kids myself. That being said, from a rational point of view, I think what you are looking for is closure. I'm not sure if a multiple year long trial will bring you closure, but that's something you need to consider yourself. I do know one person who lost his daughter due to a drunk driver. He took the funds, and founded an org to prevent these kind of situations and create awareness about it. He gives a lot of talks about it, and gets lots of coverage by the press. My gut feeling tells me that - if I would ever be in a situation comparable to him - I would love to be as strong as he is. But, truth to be told, I'm not sure if I'd have enough stamina to follow through... Sorry for your loss...