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You can't get revenge on a company like that. It's an unthinking, unfeeling automaton of concrete and steel and paperwork. Unless there is a criminal case to be

You can't get revenge on a company like that. It's an unthinking, unfeeling automaton of concrete and steel and paperwork. Unless there is a criminal case to be made against specific people, nobody will really care if they lose a civil case. You and your family will probably suffer more. Something to consider. Also don't think of the money as the value of your son or the cost of your family suffering. Even if you got a billion dollars I think that thinking could still leave you feeling guilty for accepting it. I'd consider taking a settlement and forgetting about that company as quickly as possible, and getting medical help for yourself and your wife to work on your mental injuries. See psychologists, grief counseling, find people or support groups who been through similar situations, etc. Your wife and family need you, and your son is going to be with you wherever you are so don't need to sit alone at the cemetery every day to be with him.

folli 5y ago
But you can try to prevent something similar from occuring. There's value in that.
- thathndude 5y ago
  As a lawyer, I’ve seen litigation I’ve filed result in behavior changes in even larger companies. All that’s required for evil to flourish . . .
  - throwawaylinux 5y ago
    Well OP has done something already by starting the legal process, so that's already better than many when it comes to fighting evil. And I don't think he should need to feel he has any more duty than anyone else. EDIT: My assumption is that they engaged a lawyer but if not that's obviously my advice #1.
- allisdust 5y ago
  It's doubtful whether that is possible and the family seems (understandably) grief stricken by this. The child is not coming back. Its now the duty of the OP to take care of his partner with needed counselling, may be moving to another place etc. The pain won't go away regardless of the outcome of a lawsuit. OP, I'm sorry for your loss. Things like this takes everything from us. The only thing we can do is move on and contemplate. In my personal belief, that it is only possible through spirituality. The grief is expected and completely normal. Its a result of your love for your son. The ache will be there throughout your life. I would suggest (if your finances allow), to use the settlement money to do something good for other children on an annual basis (however small it is).
- throwawaylinux 5y ago
  Very true. There's also a cost to it, and there is value in other things including OP's happiness. And he can help make the world a better place in many other ways if he feels compelled to do that.
DaveExeter 5y ago
>nobody will really care if they lose a civil case. A civil case has nothing to do with his son. The purpose of the case would be to prevent OTHER children from dying.

folli 5y ago

But you can try to prevent something similar from occuring. There's value in that.

thathndude 5y ago
As a lawyer, I’ve seen litigation I’ve filed result in behavior changes in even larger companies. All that’s required for evil to flourish . . .
- throwawaylinux 5y ago
  Well OP has done something already by starting the legal process, so that's already better than many when it comes to fighting evil. And I don't think he should need to feel he has any more duty than anyone else. EDIT: My assumption is that they engaged a lawyer but if not that's obviously my advice #1.
allisdust 5y ago
It's doubtful whether that is possible and the family seems (understandably) grief stricken by this. The child is not coming back. Its now the duty of the OP to take care of his partner with needed counselling, may be moving to another place etc. The pain won't go away regardless of the outcome of a lawsuit. OP, I'm sorry for your loss. Things like this takes everything from us. The only thing we can do is move on and contemplate. In my personal belief, that it is only possible through spirituality. The grief is expected and completely normal. Its a result of your love for your son. The ache will be there throughout your life. I would suggest (if your finances allow), to use the settlement money to do something good for other children on an annual basis (however small it is).
throwawaylinux 5y ago
Very true. There's also a cost to it, and there is value in other things including OP's happiness. And he can help make the world a better place in many other ways if he feels compelled to do that.

DaveExeter 5y ago

>nobody will really care if they lose a civil case. A civil case has nothing to do with his son. The purpose of the case would be to prevent OTHER children from dying.