You need your family on board if you wish to fight successfully. You need everyone steeled for combat, and ways to shelter those who can't handle it (without j

You need your family on board if you wish to fight successfully. You need everyone steeled for combat, and ways to shelter those who can't handle it (without judgment). You need to develop a strategy, and it must encompass your entire clan. A campaign is not fun. It takes years of blood, sweat and tears, and it's not even guaranteed. You need to decide what losses (yes you'll have them) you can handle, and which you can't. But start with the family in a respectful way that honors how each member feels (including yourself) and what they can do. You'll get nowhere without their support. You need to listen to them, and they to you (but mostly you listening to them). And if you can't get their support, then I'm sorry you'll have to let it go. Going in without it will tear your family apart.