NVC is important, but I like to view it as "reducing the likelihood of inspiring defensiveness". It's definitely a two way street, and the skillfulness with whi

NVC is important, but I like to view it as "reducing the likelihood of inspiring defensiveness". It's definitely a two way street, and the skillfulness with which I communicate is definitely on me, and affects a dynamic. That said, sometimes even the most skilled communicator might find themselves spining someone up despite their best efforts. At the end of the day all we have is self awareness and good intent, but if the other person is hell bent on being oppositional, that's gonna be very hard to navigate.