I wonder if there’s a simpler explanation: that it’s easier to be dispassionate and deprioritise attractiveness for other people? If I was advising a friend, m

I wonder if there’s a simpler explanation: that it’s easier to be dispassionate and deprioritise attractiveness for other people? If I was advising a friend, my head would rule: I’d tell them that while attractiveness is nice to have, they should prioritise other aspects (values, temperament, etc.) in choosing someone to be happy with in the long term. I have no vested interest in how attractive my friend’s partner is - only in their happiness. But when making a choice for myself, heart (or raging hormones?) plays a much bigger role, and attractiveness is prioritised much higher, especially at first. And I do (obviously) have a vested interest in optimising for the attractiveness of my partner, all else being equal.