>Just because one is open towards sex doesn't mean that their identity has to be "strongly rooted in sex". That's not what I meant, I think you misread. I mean

>Just because one is open towards sex doesn't mean that their identity has to be "strongly rooted in sex". That's not what I meant, I think you misread. I meant that we (straight "normal" people who don't necessarily have an identity rooted in sex) should not stigmatize sexual topics because there are those who have a non negligible amount of their identity rooted in their sexuality. >have to shove your opinion about your sexuality in contexts that don't matter See but that's the thing. There are no hard and fast boundaries in the real world when it comes to "does sexuality matter here," because sexuality is kind of a fundamental aspect of being a human. The types of jokes you make, the types of clothes you wear, what people think of you and how you think of other people - all these are things that can be and are influenced by your sexual orientation. >where not all people share your opinion on the importance of sex to their identity. You can't tell others what their identity is or how it's formed. It doesn't matter what you think, the truth is that (hypothetically) I was kissed by a boy when I was 7 or some shit and that has forever changed my life etc etc. Who are you to tell me that's not important to my identity? If sex isn't part of your identity that's fine, but you should still be open to the idea that it's important and OK to talk about. Because if we don't talk about it, then discussions are had in the context of unspoken defaults (straight white man=normal=default), even/especially if the conversation has nothing to do with sex. EDIT: >I don't need anyone to know my sexual orientation. It's not important in whether I'm doing my job right, or when I'm engaged in my hobbies This is irrelevant and borders on being maliciously discursive. 1. You don't need to reveal your sexual identity to be open to discussions about others' and their relevance to the task at hand. 2. Experiences at work, home, among friends, within your internal dialogue, have many more dimensions than "am I doing this job correctly/am I enjoying myself." 3. Moreover, even if you restricted your own experiences to just those dimensions, others' experiences of you doing your job/enjoying yourself aren't going to map perfectly. OK, you sealed the deal with your client. What were you wearing? Did you speak to them with the stereotypical gay accent? Unless your job has absolutely no human interaction, people can and will profile you on criteria that you think don't matter.