Saying XMPP "gave up before it started" is nonsense. There is plenty of usage and development activity across a bunch of projects. Check out the monthly newslet

Saying XMPP "gave up before it started" is nonsense. There is plenty of usage and development activity across a bunch of projects. Check out the monthly newsletter for some highlights: https://xmpp.org/newsletter/ https://xmpp.org/newsletter/ Our project https://snikket.org/ https://snikket.org/ is using XMPP and has all the features you listed. My 85yo grandmother does in fact use it to video call her grandson, regularly :)