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you’re over thinking it. parent comment is rooted in respecting your coworkers, not being some subservient drone who doesn’t add anything to the conversation. c

by n42 5y ago

you’re over thinking it. parent comment is rooted in respecting your coworkers, not being some subservient drone who doesn’t add anything to the conversation. coming in and saying “we did this at my last company” provides no room for learning why we do things this way here now, and serves to alienate you from your coworkers. there’s a long period of learning and listening that should be respected. you will have better quality input if you spend the time to understand why before adding anecdotes. it’s very good advice. of course speak up if you have something to add to the conversation, just be mindful of how you do so. I’m sick of this black and white attitude being spread about how displaying any kind of thoughtfulness to your coworkers or your professional life is unhealthy for you.

29athrowaway 5y ago
Just listen to what they have to say and evaluate if it's a good idea. If it is not a good idea, it is not constructive, or not actionable, or if it is not a priority you can voice that opinion. It is called critical thinking, collaboration and professionalism. Isolating a new person for having a good idea is being unprofessional and passive aggressive. Using your numbers to psychologically abuse a person just for having a good idea sounds more like prison culture than a real engineering organization. It also creates a culture of mediocrity which scares away talent, and a breeding ground for psychopathy. Just do your job, which is to solve problems, not creating new ones. Focus on the problem to be solved. When you are being paid by a company and acting on behalf of the company, wear the company employee hat instead of the roman politician wannabe hat. "We hire smart people to tell us what to do" - Steve Jobs.
- nocman 5y ago
  Maybe it is due to the way people interpret things differently, but none the assessments you are making in your two posts about the original comment are things that I would have said or thought about that comment.
  - 29athrowaway 5y ago
    The original comment was: use your charm to gain the trust of people, meet with each person, assess how they are useful to get your goals done. Those are the textbook first steps of the workplace psychopath. Then comes establishing a network of patrons and pawns, confronting your rivals and the psychopatic ascension, where useless patrons and pawns are forgotten or even eliminated.
    - nocman 5y ago
      That is your interpretation of the original comment, not even close to a direct quote (and I'm sure many would take it as a gross distortion of what was actually said). Obviously you and I interpreted the original comment very differently.
- tuckerpo 5y ago
  Your POV might ring true for Apple, for instance, but at 99% of American engineering jobs you kinda wanna just keep your head down and get good and not step on people's toes. Most jobs, even if they ought to be meritocracy based, are really just social games and if you come in guns blazing about how X, Y and Z are mediocre and can be improved, you're just stepping on toes and hurting feelings. It's human nature.
  - 29athrowaway 5y ago
    Let's all live in caves then. Let's not talk about how life outside caves is possible or better than living in a cave. Solving problems hurts people's feelings. We should be happy living in caves and punish people that suggest anything better... until the tribe across the river with bronze weapons kills us.
- n42 5y ago
  > Just listen to what they have to say and evaluate if it's a good idea. If it is not a good idea, it is not constructive, or not actionable, or if it is not a priority you can voice that opinion. yes. the key is to listen first. so it sounds like you’re in agreement with me and the GP, and everything else you said is because you want to be upset.

by n42 5y ago

29athrowaway 5y ago

Just listen to what they have to say and evaluate if it's a good idea. If it is not a good idea, it is not constructive, or not actionable, or if it is not a priority you can voice that opinion. It is called critical thinking, collaboration and professionalism. Isolating a new person for having a good idea is being unprofessional and passive aggressive. Using your numbers to psychologically abuse a person just for having a good idea sounds more like prison culture than a real engineering organization. It also creates a culture of mediocrity which scares away talent, and a breeding ground for psychopathy. Just do your job, which is to solve problems, not creating new ones. Focus on the problem to be solved. When you are being paid by a company and acting on behalf of the company, wear the company employee hat instead of the roman politician wannabe hat. "We hire smart people to tell us what to do" - Steve Jobs.

nocman 5y ago
Maybe it is due to the way people interpret things differently, but none the assessments you are making in your two posts about the original comment are things that I would have said or thought about that comment.
- 29athrowaway 5y ago
  The original comment was: use your charm to gain the trust of people, meet with each person, assess how they are useful to get your goals done. Those are the textbook first steps of the workplace psychopath. Then comes establishing a network of patrons and pawns, confronting your rivals and the psychopatic ascension, where useless patrons and pawns are forgotten or even eliminated.
  - nocman 5y ago
    That is your interpretation of the original comment, not even close to a direct quote (and I'm sure many would take it as a gross distortion of what was actually said). Obviously you and I interpreted the original comment very differently.
tuckerpo 5y ago
Your POV might ring true for Apple, for instance, but at 99% of American engineering jobs you kinda wanna just keep your head down and get good and not step on people's toes. Most jobs, even if they ought to be meritocracy based, are really just social games and if you come in guns blazing about how X, Y and Z are mediocre and can be improved, you're just stepping on toes and hurting feelings. It's human nature.
- 29athrowaway 5y ago
  Let's all live in caves then. Let's not talk about how life outside caves is possible or better than living in a cave. Solving problems hurts people's feelings. We should be happy living in caves and punish people that suggest anything better... until the tribe across the river with bronze weapons kills us.
n42 5y ago
> Just listen to what they have to say and evaluate if it's a good idea. If it is not a good idea, it is not constructive, or not actionable, or if it is not a priority you can voice that opinion. yes. the key is to listen first. so it sounds like you’re in agreement with me and the GP, and everything else you said is because you want to be upset.