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If you doubt your friend's plans. Don't go at it trying to convince him he's wrong. Go at it trying to understand why he thinks it's a good plan. If you want to

by rocqua 5y ago

If you doubt your friend's plans. Don't go at it trying to convince him he's wrong. Go at it trying to understand why he thinks it's a good plan. If you want to be direct 'I don't believe this will work without a great UI, am I missing something? ' is much better than 'you'll never do it without a great UI'. Both are direct and confronting. The first is aggressive, the second is dialogue.

Remnant44 5y ago
This. Turn the situation around. How often do you enjoy hearing someone's opinion on something where they haven't even tried to understand your goals, motivations, and values? And instead just spouted off what they think?
krisoft 5y ago
> If you want to be direct 'I don't believe this will work without a great UI, am I missing something? ' is much better than 'you'll never do it without a great UI'. If someone is unable to turn one into the other in their head probably they shouldn’t be doing a startup really. I understand that one shouldn’t be a jerk, but we also don’t have to go around like other people are made of eggshells. “You will never do it without a great UI” is a perfectly fine thing to say if you believe that. A healthy, well adjusted human being can say to that “you are right and this is how we will get a great UI” or tell you “you might think that, but actually” or they might shrug and ignore you or any other variation. If their world collapses from a tinny bit of adversity, and they fold like a wet napkin they should do something less stressfull.
- rocqua 5y ago
  Sure. They can probably handle it. But should being around friends test 'if they can handle what you say'? I hope that is not what my friends think (except for my puns). Especially around friends it would be nice if that is where the pin-pricks stop, and you just get to feel at ease a bit.

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If you doubt your friend's plans. Don't go at it trying to convince him he's wrong. Go at it trying to understand why he thinks it's a good plan. If you want to

by rocqua 5y ago

Remnant44 5y ago
This. Turn the situation around. How often do you enjoy hearing someone's opinion on something where they haven't even tried to understand your goals, motivations, and values? And instead just spouted off what they think?
krisoft 5y ago
> If you want to be direct 'I don't believe this will work without a great UI, am I missing something? ' is much better than 'you'll never do it without a great UI'. If someone is unable to turn one into the other in their head probably they shouldn’t be doing a startup really. I understand that one shouldn’t be a jerk, but we also don’t have to go around like other people are made of eggshells. “You will never do it without a great UI” is a perfectly fine thing to say if you believe that. A healthy, well adjusted human being can say to that “you are right and this is how we will get a great UI” or tell you “you might think that, but actually” or they might shrug and ignore you or any other variation. If their world collapses from a tinny bit of adversity, and they fold like a wet napkin they should do something less stressfull.
- rocqua 5y ago
  Sure. They can probably handle it. But should being around friends test 'if they can handle what you say'? I hope that is not what my friends think (except for my puns). Especially around friends it would be nice if that is where the pin-pricks stop, and you just get to feel at ease a bit.