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If it's the situation that someone needs something from you, I think you're within your rights to limit the "conversation" to whatever medium you're most comfor
by lylejohnson 15y ago
If it's the situation that someone needs something from you, I think you're within your rights to limit the "conversation" to whatever medium you're most comfortable with (e.g. I myself prefer e-mail for most communications). But if it's a situation where you need something from them (e.g. sponsorship from a potential PhD advisor) you may have to just suck it up and place the call.
You don't mention why you're averse to phone calls. If talking on the phone (especially with strangers) makes you anxious, maybe it would help to write down notes in advance about potential topics of conversation, and have those in front of you before you make the call.
- stfu 15y agoI never became comfortable talking to people without getting a visual perspective. Whenever I write something, I can put some effort in constructing a narrative and reworking it until I am somewhat okay with it. But I find it incredibly hard to "wing" a conversation without getting any visual feedback. It is less of an issue in these situation where I don't care about the outcomes or if it is just some repetitive thing. But creating a first impression via telephone is just something that I find extremely unsettling.
- lylejohnson 15y agoI understand. Best of luck.