I'm not actually going to ask ... it's not that it's a WHOPPR situation (I don't think they'd be offended) but I told my kids starting at age 12-13 that my job

I'm not actually going to ask ... it's not that it's a WHOPPR situation (I don't think they'd be offended) but I told my kids starting at age 12-13 that my job is to keep them from making "fatal mistakes", that they'd have to develop adult behaviors if they wanted to be successful as adults, that while there's "an average human", it's not them and that if they had any questions about how to behave in a situation, I'd be happy to talk it through with them. This worked pretty well and it's been gratifying to see them reason through situations on their own. Most importantly, I love who they've become and that I can finally "be their friend".