"spend all the time you possibly can with your family. Make them your focus, not your income and "future". Be in the now as much as you possibly can" Retrospec

"spend all the time you possibly can with your family. Make them your focus, not your income and "future". Be in the now as much as you possibly can" Retrospect is 20/20... (I'm making the assumption you have had young kids and are speaking from experience). I have spent loads of time with my kids in the last few years (more than many of my peers have) and at times think it has been to mine and (by association) their detriment. "all the time you possibly can" is just too emphatic-an aspiration to be realistic in the messy context of real life. Regrets on some scale are inevitable so learning to accept them is important. Balance is all.