I read the comments on my comment and I don't understand why there is so much overreaction. The author is unlikeable in the context of her article about friend

I read the comments on my comment and I don't understand why there is so much overreaction. The author is unlikeable in the context of her article about friendship, not outside of it (at least, I have no idea). Like, she says she's a bad friend, and I imagine many of the readers agree with her definition after reading about how she keeps friends. And yes, being friends isn't hard, like many other things that modern society has determined are actually challenging in the modern world, among which we find waking up. If there is free will, we can keep up with friends if we want to. Then, a mistake that I think many people, and I was among them, make is that they believe that friendship should be encompassing, total, and forever. But it isn't, and in most cases it shouldn't be. "the reasons why the two women (Elisa and Rebecca) and the author find their respective friendships so difficult." Maybe I'm overestimating my "detective's eye," but this doesn't seem like a mystery at all; it would be a mystery if they both had to be friends, wanted to be friends, and for some reason, maybe a mutual allergy, maybe pheromones that cause the "receiving" person to be aroused by the other's presence, and the feeling is so overwhelming that being friends is impossible. That would be mysterious. But reading the exchange between the two, there's only one reader older than 15, and I'm being generous here, who says, "gosh, I just don't understand why they aren't friends anymore," or "I really don't understand what's going on in their dynamic." How can wanting to compare a friend to a mother - a better version of their mother - not lead to extraordinary toxicity? The two should stay as far away from each other as possible. I enjoyed the article, it made me think about my own friendships.