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I don't think I'm in the minority, but I'll come out and say it. I hate the concept of 'meeting new people'. Not saying that I hate people or socializing, I jus

I don't think I'm in the minority, but I'll come out and say it. I hate the concept of 'meeting new people'. Not saying that I hate people or socializing, I just hate the whole song and dance of exchanging pleasantries, feigning interest, and proffering bits of information about myself, etc. It's one of those things where you have to go out and press flesh with 100 or 200 people to find one person you REALLY click with. It's overwhelming to me and I'm usually drained after chatting up 10 or 15 people. On the other hand, I have had pretty good luck dropping in on local and regional forums, chatting about topical stuff, building a rapport with people, and then meeting them in person.

wallflower 15y ago
> On the other hand, I have had pretty good luck dropping in on local and regional forums, chatting about topical stuff, building a rapport with people, and then meeting them in person. The three C's: Conversation-friendliness, Community, Continuity https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2800649 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2800649
spodek 15y ago
My social and communications skills weren't great when I started my first company. As a science graduate student before that I didn't think they'd need to be. Nor did I like acting like I did. How much we enjoy something depends on our expectations of success. As you improve your skills and experience success meeting people you enjoy it more. You'll also get better jobs, have better meetings with VCs, etc. Since I came to improving my communication and social skills later in life through exercises, I shared a few of the most effective exercises on my blog -- http://joshuaspodek.com/communication-skills-exercises-6 http://joshuaspodek.com/communication-skills-exercises-6. They've become some of my most popular posts. This is just the type of crowd I wrote them for.

wallflower 15y ago

> On the other hand, I have had pretty good luck dropping in on local and regional forums, chatting about topical stuff, building a rapport with people, and then meeting them in person. The three C's: Conversation-friendliness, Community, Continuity https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2800649 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2800649

spodek 15y ago

My social and communications skills weren't great when I started my first company. As a science graduate student before that I didn't think they'd need to be. Nor did I like acting like I did. How much we enjoy something depends on our expectations of success. As you improve your skills and experience success meeting people you enjoy it more. You'll also get better jobs, have better meetings with VCs, etc. Since I came to improving my communication and social skills later in life through exercises, I shared a few of the most effective exercises on my blog -- http://joshuaspodek.com/communication-skills-exercises-6 http://joshuaspodek.com/communication-skills-exercises-6. They've become some of my most popular posts. This is just the type of crowd I wrote them for.