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Setting boundaries that ask people to respect your time is not "staggeringly entitled," it's pretty much the bare minimum of self-respect.

• unfocussed_mike 5y ago
  I appreciate that this is a fine hair to split, but I didn't actually say that setting boundaries is entitled. It's the website, and the sort of arms-length sharing of it, that is staggeringly entitled. Worse still, putting it in status messages or biogs. People will see this thing and think: OK, but when I do communicate precisely the way they want, they are sometimes still abrupt and terse and difficult. Why am I jumping through hoops? The thing is, the way people are, they might have tolerated that a little more, or maybe not even noticed it much, if it hadn't been pre-emptively shoved in their faces with a literal manifesto website. Setting boundaries is difficult. But it's what line management is for. It's also more easily done mid-communication, which I think is often missed here. It's easier to say, "yeah, I can do this, but for next time, could you summarise the problem in your initial message? It helps me deal with your inquiry." And then remember that everyone is different. If they say "OK, that can be a little difficult for me because...", their reason might be good and it might build a bridge if you try to remember it.