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it's not rudeness. (I assume the rules about workplace kitchenware is that everyone has to return them, etc.) sure, I completely see your point. I am the buy m

by pas 5y ago

it's not rudeness. (I assume the rules about workplace kitchenware is that everyone has to return them, etc.) sure, I completely see your point. I am the buy more fork guy in almost all of my social circles. like you said, it's just inexpensive, easy, etc. but that doesn't necessarily works for attention. it's pretty scarce, so if someone feels they are really bothered by these hellos, then stating their preference up front seems okay to me. career advancement is important, but the recruiter won't care, the interviewer won't care, and your next team also won't care about what happened on the internal lists at the previous workplace. (even if it's the first hit for your name in Google)

unfocussed_mike 5y ago
> but that doesn't necessarily works for attention. It definitely does not, indeed. But I still think this kind of approach is damaging. And putting the link in your slack status or sharing it to a list is reputational self-harm. > career advancement is important, but the recruiter won't care, the interviewer won't care, and your next team also won't care about what happened on the internal lists at the previous workplace. (even if it's the first hit for your name in Google) Haha luckily it didn't make it into the Google era (or if it did I never found it). I mean more that, how to put it: you don't have control over how and when briskness and terseness is interpreted as rudeness, and how long that rudeness is remembered. So things like this website: to me it just comes across as very entitled. Creating a movement around something as small as this is just exactly why people don't like approaching tech people with questions. We're not actually entitled to be approached in any particular way except politely, and politeness is not something with a single definition that everyone must know for us to be expected to respond at all.

by pas 5y ago

unfocussed_mike 5y ago

> but that doesn't necessarily works for attention. It definitely does not, indeed. But I still think this kind of approach is damaging. And putting the link in your slack status or sharing it to a list is reputational self-harm. > career advancement is important, but the recruiter won't care, the interviewer won't care, and your next team also won't care about what happened on the internal lists at the previous workplace. (even if it's the first hit for your name in Google) Haha luckily it didn't make it into the Google era (or if it did I never found it). I mean more that, how to put it: you don't have control over how and when briskness and terseness is interpreted as rudeness, and how long that rudeness is remembered. So things like this website: to me it just comes across as very entitled. Creating a movement around something as small as this is just exactly why people don't like approaching tech people with questions. We're not actually entitled to be approached in any particular way except politely, and politeness is not something with a single definition that everyone must know for us to be expected to respond at all.