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> I don’t think people do this because they want to be polite Actually, yes, we really are (were). I don't have a problem with it, but the people who do have
by commandlinefan 5y ago
> I don’t think people do this because they want to be polite
Actually, yes, we really are (were). I don't have a problem with it, but the people who do have a problem with it seem to have a problem with it with the intense burning passion of a thousand suns so I've stopped doing it, but don't attribute malice to people who were just trying to follow social conventions.
- shikoba 5y agoHi :) Thank you for that laugh. That's so true.
- chousuke 5y agoI wonder why people think it's polite, because I consider is the exact opposite of polite to distract someone with something that may not lead anywhere. It might be just my ADHD talking, but getting interrupted by a "Hi" can be seriously disruptive because my brain wants to respond to it, but I then have to wait for the other person, and they might not respond immediately, and by then I've already lost focus on whatever I was doing which is immensely frustrating. If instead I'm prompted with a "Hi, can you chat about X?" I can immediately respond in a way that satisfies my brain without losing focus on my ongoing activity.
- n42 5y agoI don’t mean this hostilely; social conventions are typically based on etiquettes, so in trying to follow the conventions of an existing medium of communication you are failing at basic etiquette of a new one. it’s all about being considerate of the other person, which is why they feel “passion of a thousand suns” — at a fundamental level they feel disrespected