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While that doctor's behavior was indeed utterly unacceptable, I'm not sure I understand the insistence on figuring out which sperm donation got you pregnant (if

While that doctor's behavior was indeed utterly unacceptable, I'm not sure I understand the insistence on figuring out which sperm donation got you pregnant (if you're the mother) or who exactly your biological father is. A hundred men donate sperm at some clinic, and then went on with their lives. If it were me, I doubt I would want to pick out one of them and try to pull them into my life. He hasn't done something significant distinguishing him from all the rest which merits this. At least - that's how I feel about it. And after all, Penina (the mother) herself... > worried such an arrangement [donation from a friend-of-a-friend] would be emotionally and legally fraught, especially if the man wished to be involved in the baby’s life.

madrox 5y ago
If you're a certain kind of person who is either lonely or lost in life, it's a mission with a purpose whose reward may be a connection that makes you feel less alone. Readinging between the lines of this article, it sounds like this author may be a bit of both.
stickfigure 5y ago
Agreed, it seems odd to have a strong emotional reaction to the discovery that your father is Donor #3855 instead of Donor #2291. On the other hand, inheriting celiac is pretty awful.
samtho 5y ago
> I'm not sure I understand the insistence on figuring out [...] who exactly your biological father is. The importance of this is different for everyone in this situation and weighs on everyone different. When if you looked into a mirror and did not know or understand where literally half of you came from? Would you know what some sort of answer? If you grew up not fitting in with your family, it is only natural to want to know more lest you repress it and experience an identity crisis.
marc_abonce 5y ago
Psychological reasons aside, because this information can be medically relevant. For example the article mentions: > Rebecca had also recently developed celiac disease, a hereditary condition that didn’t run in either of her parents’ families.

madrox 5y ago

If you're a certain kind of person who is either lonely or lost in life, it's a mission with a purpose whose reward may be a connection that makes you feel less alone. Readinging between the lines of this article, it sounds like this author may be a bit of both.

stickfigure 5y ago

Agreed, it seems odd to have a strong emotional reaction to the discovery that your father is Donor #3855 instead of Donor #2291. On the other hand, inheriting celiac is pretty awful.

samtho 5y ago

> I'm not sure I understand the insistence on figuring out [...] who exactly your biological father is. The importance of this is different for everyone in this situation and weighs on everyone different. When if you looked into a mirror and did not know or understand where literally half of you came from? Would you know what some sort of answer? If you grew up not fitting in with your family, it is only natural to want to know more lest you repress it and experience an identity crisis.

marc_abonce 5y ago

Psychological reasons aside, because this information can be medically relevant. For example the article mentions: > Rebecca had also recently developed celiac disease, a hereditary condition that didn’t run in either of her parents’ families.