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I've wondered if the subconscious reason for sending "hi" / disliking receiving "hi" is that -- in the same way as a read receipt -- it denies the recipient the

I've wondered if the subconscious reason for sending "hi" / disliking receiving "hi" is that -- in the same way as a read receipt -- it denies the recipient the chance to read the message and tactfully choose to ignore it for some time. E.g. no-one likes being saddled with urgent work; therefore pretending you haven't yet seen a request for such until you feel like dealing with it may be a common response; therefore asking "hi" is an attempt to establish real-time communication and thus force an immediate response to a potentially unpalatable request.

techsupporter 5y ago
> it denies the recipient the chance to read the message and tactfully choose to ignore it for some time. This is exactly why I don't like it, I don't get the chance to prioritize work. Just like the examples in the link, if someone replies with just "hi," I will put it at the bottom of the request pile because I have 19 other things to do. All of those things are known quantities, this "hi" isn't. I'm sure it's confirmation bias but it feels to me that the times of late when I accidentally or, out of a thought that I should be more nice to people, break pattern and reply, I always get sucked into a vortex of fail.