"Eat more of the stuff you like" is definitely strategy zero -- it will keep even the pickiest kids alive with less intervention. It's also why parents get cal

"Eat more of the stuff you like" is definitely strategy zero -- it will keep even the pickiest kids alive with less intervention. It's also why parents get called bad parents who when their ARFID kids will only eat two kinds of potato chips and one kind of cheese. Strategy one: baseline foods and well-liked gravies/sauces. Do they eat rice? If so, Asian food is an amazing way to extend taste and texture tolerance, because special fried rices (like Nasi Goreng etc.) allow you to experiment with the amount of a thing you can bear at any one time, and also to add small amounts of other dishes to the safe rice as they want to. Strategy two: comparable foods. Choose a restaurant not always because it has the thing they like, but sometimes because it has a different kind of meal that is extremely similar. Again, Asian food is amazing for this -- chicken katsu curry, if I'd known that was a thing when I was nine... Strategy three: outsourcing. Your kids friends' parents are likely to get them to eat things you cannot. Because eating the thing at home, disappointing you by not being able to eat it, etc., is different. Strategy four: participation. Cook the thing they'll eat but ask them to them stir it/help prepare it/be responsible for it. Strategy five: cookery. Get them to choose a thing from a recipe book and be involved with it to the point that they are doing all the non-dangerous bits themselves quite young. Strategy six: send them off to uni/college. I came back from uni in my second term largely cured, though I was never able to (and I am still unable to) eat breakfast with anyone else.