Yes and: Get curious. Whenever I don't understand what's happening, I try to step back and think of open ended (non judgmental) questions. So depending on the

Yes and: Get curious. Whenever I don't understand what's happening, I try to step back and think of open ended (non judgmental) questions. So depending on the whatifs, in this OC's case, I might ask: How can I make this better? Can you help me improve the docs, wiki, readme, whatever? Additionally, it shifts the "initiative" (for lack of a better term) back onto the eeyore. Meaning, instead of me explaining and defending, by asking for help, I'm shifting the onus back onto them. I mean, it's just so easy (and lazy) to criticize. Subtly, gently insist the critic put some skin into the game. Over time, they'll step up or bow out; both outcomes which suit me fine.